Norm and I spent Thanksgiving in the hospital – not a good place to be at any time, but a not-gooder place to be during holidays. But we were filled with thanks, all the same. Norm, while in pain, was thankful that he HAD pain and I was thankful that we were IN the hospital, not somewhere worse!
This was a life-changing event in many ways! Norm was through working full time – and through working for over six months – and went on Social Security Disability. He learned to take it easier than before and not work quite as hard. He learned to ask for help. He learned to slow down and get things done at a slower pace. He learned to have patience with himself and give himself a break, a nap, a cup of tea, a foot-up book reading session.
I learned that Norm is not invincible and can’t do everything. I learned to have patience and realize that things will get done, but at a slower pace. I learned to appreciate my husband even more than I had before and be grateful. I learned what it was to be afraid .. really afraid.
And we both learned to “stop and smell the roses” – to enjoy watching birds for an hour rather than doing something “constructive” – to enjoy being together And we learned to be very, very grateful for life.
In the "halo" he wore for 3 months
There's a hard collar underneath his neck scarf - but he's back to "work"
Nearly normal - only minor neck aches and twinges unless he's too active
Which makes every day a beautiful day. You have a beautiful day!